Crocheting started for me as a way to give back. Then I quickly realized that it helped my anxiety in social situations where I wasn’t comfortable in my new role as a grieving mother. Whether something was triggering, or I could sense that my grief made someone else uncomfortable, crocheting gave me something else to focus on. It helped to wean me off of the anti-anxiety medications I took when I had to be around people. I have since found that crocheting for a little while helps calm anxiety of any kind.
My other healing therapy is being able to talk about Noah, our experiences, my grief. Or more often writing about it. I write for capture your grief during October, but I write the rest of the year in spaces where I can connect with other parents dealing with loss and infertility. This blog, message boards. Places I can share our story.
I am reminded of a line from RENT – “The opposite of war isn’t peace – it’s creation.” Grief and loss can feel like a war. But being able to create in the face of loss can be incredibly healing.
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