When people say you murdered your baby

I know I’ve been absent. But I need to get this out. If anyone is still here, forgive me for only coming here in pain. I’m struggling. With everything in the news, with everything being posted. I have been unfriended by family. I have had people I considered friends tell me (unknowing that it applies […]

Joy and grief

One person’s day of joy, is another’s day of grief. Today is Owen’s 6th birthday.  For one friend, it is also the 7th anniversary of the sudden death of her brother.  For another it is her daughter’s 2nd stillbirthday.   Joy and grief are not comfortable bedfellows.   Noah’s birthday is the same day as […]

Due dates

Today isn’t a birthday. Or a death day. It’s a “what might have been.” I know that even if he had been healthy, Noah would almost certainly not have been born on this date. But it is the day of promise. From the moment of two pink lines, this is the day we looked towards. […]